tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1943780351660535192.post3669414279759403910..comments2008-11-17T08:19:52.858-08:00Chad Harrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13746094521505745793noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1943780351660535192.post-12830314288804572292008-11-17T07:02:00.000-08:002008-11-17T07:02:00.000-08:00Krista, <BR/><BR/>I am sooo glad that you have this blog. I don't get chance to share my feelings very much about this subject, so your blog is very helpful to me. <BR/><BR/>Kathy, <BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for reading my comment. I hadn't planned on writing so much... but this seemed like just the right place to open up. I was able to help my Mother relax because I completely understand that despite how I feel, she is the one that needs help...not me. I hurt and I want to cry, but her condition is not about me, it is about her. She hurts to and she feels lost. I am just here to help her find her way back and to feel safe the entire time. <BR/><BR/>She is always so afraid. I dont know of what, but she is so afraid that someone is going to harm her. I constantlty reassure her that she is safe. <BR/><BR/>Along with Alzhiemer's she has Dementia which explains the hallucinations. She constantly complains of seeing people when there is no one around. I had to tell my Father to stop telling her that no one is there. She gets so upset and questions her sanity. I told him to just tell her that they can not touch her or harm her in any way. <BR/><BR/>Alzhiemers is such a complicated condition. It effects everyone so differently. I am so glad that here on this blog we can share our experiences and our findings. <BR/><BR/>Just keep in mind that when and if your Father does not recognize you, it is unintentional and real. He is not playing games and only time and comfort will bring him back. Be patient and kind. Talk about things that he loves. Talk about his childhood, or his favorite candy... anything to relax his mind. It's only then (in my experience) that he will come back. <BR/><BR/>I know there will come a time (real soon) that I am a complete stranger to my Mother. I know that there may be no coming back for her. But one thing that will remain is that she is still my mother, I love her and I know that she mothered me with enough love to last a lifetime. I will just have to be a sweet kind stranger to her so that she remains as comfortable as possible until the end. <BR/><BR/>I always think of her and her well being. When her time is up here on earth, I will be at peace with knowing that I did everything that I could to help her. I will always cherish our time together and hold on to our lifetime of memories. <BR/><BR/>xoxoxoxoxoxoxo<BR/>DonnaDonna Mariehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07678214618259250396noreply@blogger.com