I haven't been able to see my dad for a while up until recently. I have had a cold on and off and then when I would recover one of my kids would end up sick and I was afraid I would carry that as well, so I waited until we were all well until I saw my dad again.I visited with him the other day and I was hoping he would light up when he saw me but, of course, he did not. Although, he did look at me with an expression of love in his eyes for me. I would ask him questions and he would answer yes or no. He would actually answer correctly. If I asked him a question that required an answer other than yes or no, he would get confused and could not speak. I then realized that Alzheimer's is like learning to speak another language. It's always easier to understand the language better than it is to speak it.
Although, Alzheimer's is a cruel disease, I am also convinced that our Alzheimer's loved ones are aware and understand a lot more then we know. They just forget how to speak our language.


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So true! I know my mom understood alot more than she could tell us.
I know it's hard but it's good that you kept away when you were sick. I used to keep away from my mom when I was sick (even a little sick because you never know if you're contagious!). I always thought I couldn't live with myself if she got sick & passed away because of my carelessness with germs. They are so fragile - you can't be too careful.
Hello,
My name is Kathy and I am the full time caregiver for my eighty one year-old Dad who has Alzheimer's and lives with me in North Carolina.
When my Mom died in 2004 and Dad moved in with me, I had no idea what to do. But day by day, I found ways to cope, and even enjoy having my Dad with me.
So I started writing a blog at www.KnowItAlz.com, which shows the "lighter" side of caring for someone with dementia.
After a while, I added over 100 pages of helpful information and tips for caregivers. We even have a Chat room so caregivers can communicate with each other from home. I wonder if you would consider adding KnowItAlz to your Caregiver Resources Page.
Also, please feel free to pass this link along to anyone you feel would enjoy it.
Thanks!
Kathy
Kathy Hatfield
www.KnowItAlz.com
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