While my husband and I visited my dad the other day we noticed how pale is skin has become. He looked dead. I asked the aid if they take him in the back yard ever and she said "no". That means that he has not been outside in a very long time. The poor thing. We told her they need to take him out every day for at least 15 minutes.
His Alzheimer's is getting worse but his physical health is pretty good. I wish they would be equal so that his body doesn't have to suffer because of what the brain is not telling it to do.
I look in to his eyes and try for him to keep focused on me just to see if anything sparks. I ask him if he knows who I am and he always says yes but then when I ask him what my name is, he just stares at me and then turns his head away. He will probably never say my name again. That's okay. Alzheimer's is such a tricky disease. He doesn't know my name but he still gives me a smile like the sweet person he has always been.
I miss him.
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We had to ask for the home to take my mom outside too. We also asked them to include her in activities, even if she just sat on the sideline watching.
I noticed my mom would answer "yes" to alot of questions and then not be able to elaborate. I wondered if "yes" was the only word she could say and it meant nothing? For instance, I once asked her if she was feeling okay and she said "yes". Two seconds later, I asked if she was in any pain and she answered "yes". I freaked a bit and then after more talking/poking (I felt her forehead, arms, legs, stomach, heart area to see if there was any reaction or indication of pain), I realized that she was just saying "yes" as a response, not as a true answer.
My mom is fair away but every once in awhile she says something that makes me know she is still in there. I was climbing on a step ladder the other day in the kitchen and she said be careful.
For my mom that is great. I am sure you dad it in there somewhere too.
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